Inner Wounds
Wounds…
Little boo-boos when we are little
Little cries followed by
Motherly love and tenderness
Making it all better
But…
Who tends to our Inner Wounds?
Have we passed the age?
Or have we learnt to suppress
Our very own Wounds
To keep face…
What happens when we birth children and have our own wounds to heal? Having embraced motherhood has truly opened many unanswered questions. The old patriarchal society, that we are slowly extricating ourselves from as we go through this beautiful human evolution, boxed motherhood as a duty to produce child, raise a child and turn this child into mini-us. Today’s children will not stand for that nonsense, as many of us parents know; many adopt more conscious parenting or zen parenting. If anything our children will tell us exactly what they want and teach us where we went wrong as children and where too often, we go wrong as adults. If anything they open these inner wounds that we were programmed to ignore.
I was listening to an interview about inner wounds today about learning from our wounds and about healing them. This inspired me to write this short piece, on the importance of tending to ourselves and to our inner beings. To become better versions of ourselves, we often need to check into our inner selves to heal our ancestral behavioural patterns and wounds. Perhaps only then our children can become a reflection of their better selves as they learn that it is absolutely okay to be wounded and it is absolutely fine to heal or seek help for healing. Rather than clutching to straws and putting up with situations that serve no purpose, our healed selves will gently and softly learn to say ‘No, this is not acceptable behaviour’.
Our inner wounds are perhaps our wisest teachers, meaning we hold inner wisdom to heal ourselves to find our life purpose (Dharma). Rather than being a role-model for ‘Earning to Consume and pay bills’, perhaps our children will see us as being parents who live for a passion and in contentment. Often, our inner wounds have forced many of us to wear masks and face shields, an irony given that this is the norm in our world in a pandemic. Healing our wounds can free us from becoming walking masks and can allow us to exude our true selves to the world. It should feel lighter as we breathe in space into us for purposeful growth and true living rather than just surviving.
A cut and a bruise are reminders for our body to heal. An inner wound is a reminder for us to focus on ourselves, in our beautiful inner beings. Perhaps it is a cue for us to cut the cords from formatted thinking and beliefs as well as with people and situations that no longer serve. A wound teaches us that we should truly love ourselves: only then we can perhaps love others, unconditionally. A wound prompts us that we need time to heal, to create sacred space for our mind and souls for nourishment and nurturing. An inner wound often reminds us that we are all worthy of love, worthy of greatness and worthy to create big. It is also a reminder for us to learn to forgive ourselves as perhaps only then, we forgive others. A wound teaches us to step out of the victim zone and gives us the strength to move forward with our lives. It teaches us to learn to be uncomfortable so that we can step out of our comfort zones and live our lives, HAPPY, to our full potential.
Our best teachers and guides are ourselves if we learn to listen deeply. Inner wounds are mere reminders, but in truth, we all carry our own solutions to bring out the best of ourselves. To quote Rumi: “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
Sending you all light.
